Men really could take the world back.
It was never meant to be run by women to begin with. Women were never designed to “wear the pants” and be #bossbabes.
I know this is where I lose most of you – especially women. I know this is where I really start confusing the women I love and adore so deeply. Because I really am all for women empowerment…but biblical women empowerment, as God intended.
In this culture and society, biblical truths are despised. They are “offensive” and “oppressive”. Feminism has brought us into an era of extreme defensiveness when it comes to the term “equality”.
Men and women were created of equal value in God’s eyes, but they were never created to have equal roles or traits.
Creation order is very simple:
- Man from dust.
- Woman from man…FOR man.
“Then the LORD God said, ‘it is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.’” Genesis 2:18
God created man in His own image first. Then, He created woman also in His image, after man. This is so important to note because the God of all creation, who can literally create something out of nothing, most definitely could have created both man and woman at the same time…but He didn’t.
He was very intentional.
He created Adam from the dust on the ground, and then created Eve from Adam’s rib. God gave Adam authority over Eve, his wife. Even the first woman to walk the earth was not given life without a man to lead her.
God created men to be wise, strong, and godly protectors, providers, and leaders.
God created women to be loving, caring, gentle, soft, vulnerable, emotional, and nurturing helpers.
God commands men to love their wives like Christ loves us: unconditionally, sacrificially, respectfully, and gracefully. God commands men to provide for his wife and family. God commands men to have authority over his wife and household. God commands men to lead their wives.
In turn, God commands women to submit to their husbands.
It could all be so simple, restoring God’s order and fixing humanity.
The problem is, we live in a world where males don’t know if they are really males, let alone know how to be a man. This has led females to also not know how to be women anymore either.
And hey, I get it. Most of us are still suffering from childhood damage. A lot of us came from broken homes where there were no good and godly examples of what we were created to be. But it’s time to let go of the excuses and victim mentalities. It’s time to heal and become the man you were created to be. Not who you want to be, not who you feel like being, not a personality or gender to try on. But the biological man that God wove into your DNA.
The guys are not gonna like this, but it has got to start with you. It’s impossible to turn women around and help them be soft again while they are having to lead the men. A woman cannot submit to a man who doesn’t know how to be a man.
In order for a woman to be submissive, she must feel safe to be submissive. She has to be able to trust you and your ability to lead her, protect her, provide for her, and love her the way God commands. And when I say “provide for her”, I’m not just talking about financially, although that is one aspect of many. I mean making her feel physically, mentally, and emotionally safe. If she feels safe to be her naturally vulnerable self with you, then she can submit to you.
But, if she doesn’t trust you to make wise decisions, protect her, and lead her properly…then she will not submit.
Women need strong, wise, capable, loving, protective, considerate, and authoritative men who understand their assignment to provide.
Men need soft, feminine, gentle, kind, and caring women to help them.
It is the perfectly crafted equation designed by God. The two very distinct genders and their very distinct roles complement each other beautifully and were designed to assure a life of blessings.
When men stopped being men, women were forced to become more masculine.
Do ya’ll really not see the the very clear connection between the absolute absence of masculinity in men and the rise of the homosexual/transgender epidemic?!
After so many decades of men losing interest in being masculine – or perhaps not ever being taught how to be masculine – women started giving up on men and began pursuing other women to get their needs met.
Let me say that part again.
Generations of weak, confused, wounded, emasculated men literally pushed women away…right into the arms of another woman. And often times, it’s into the arms of a masculine woman. As a woman who once believed she was queer, I can confidently say that women have a natural and god-given need for masculinity in their partner. And with the overwhelming lack of masculinity in males – yet still needing and wanting to be loved – women began blurring the lines between affectionate friendship and romantic interests. Men, in response, started looking to other men for love, instead of fixing the problem they created.
I get it, I really do.
We are so far into this mess that we don’t even know where to begin. Most people don’t even have the desire to make the changes necessary to restore creation order. We’re all so caught up in our own pain, guilt, and shame. We’re still waiting to be rescued from our childhood wounds. We’re waiting for someone to be held accountable for hurting us. For making us feel unworthy, unloveable, disposable, unattractive, ordinary, and forgettable.
But I have uncomfortable news, brethren.
It’s not happening. Not like this. Not while you aimlessly shuffle through life blaming everyone else for your problems and hanging onto old pain. Not while you insist on being babied by society and especially by your wife and family.
It’s time.
Time to rise up and take back what was created by God to be yours. Time to restore humanity.
You have got to stop waiting for and expecting women to mysteriously become more submissive. Women were created to follow, not lead.
Do you know what that means?
It means that you have to do the work first, if you want women to follow you. You have to lead, and women will naturally fall in line…because that is how God designed women to operate.
You don’t know how to do that, I know. But guess what? There’s a very, unbelievably simple answer:
Jesus Christ.
Learn about Him. Get to really know Him. Then you will love Him, and you will seek Him. And because He loves you unconditionally, He will heal you from your pain – even the pain you hide or refuse to acknowledge. He will not only show you your inadequacies, but He will teach you how to overcome them. He understands that you didn’t become like this intentionally, you became like this generationally. He will give you the desire to become better. a better man, a better son, a better husband, a better father, a better friend, a better neighbor, a better authoritarian, a better leader, a better protector, a better provider. Not perfect, just better.
He. Will. Teach. You.
And in His perfect timing, he will either create in your wife or send you a wife perfect for you. A wife who will submit to you and your authority. A wife who doesn’t argue over silly things. A wife who trusts you to lead her, protect her, and provide for her. A wife who feels safe with you to be fully feminine, fully vulnerable, fully honest, and real. A wife wo only desires to serve you and the Lord, as God instructs women to do. A wife who is passionate about family and wants to raise strong, wise, and capable children with you. A wife who trusts you to be the father they need.
Doesn’t that sound nice?
A beautiful, gentle, loving, supportive wife who cultivates peace, who feels safe in your presence, who enjoys serving you, and submits to the Lord.
It’s no secret that God blesses His children that love Him. God can bless you too, for committing your life to Him and His plans for you.
He can work in your wife, too, if you’re already married. He can change you both. But it has to start with you men.
Women were never meant to run the world. Women were never meant to lead men. Women were never meant to have any authority over men. This has happened in our society as a result of men becoming increasingly emasculated over time. Whether that emasculation came in the form of physical or sexual abuse, absent fathers, lack of godly mentors, childhood wounds, being raised by single mothers, or just conformity to the world’s trends.
Healed women don’t want to be in charge. Healed women want to stay home, be loving and submissive housewives. Healed women want to be homemakers and serve their husbands. Healed women want to raise and teach their children in safe and loving homes. Healed women don’t want to be in charge. They don’t want to lead. They don’t want to make the hard decisions. They want the freedom to simply exist, and make your life a little better and hopefully easier.
The choice is yours, brethren.
Rise up and let God help you take this world back?
Or keep leaving women with no choice but to become more and more masculine?
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